A new baby brings many joys, as well as many changes, to routines and lifestyles. With a little guidance and patience, these changes can be weathered relatively smoothly.
Older Siblings
If you have other children at home, they’ll probably need to adjust to their new brother or sister. Temporary changes in their behavior are normal. Encourage them to talk about their feelings, and try to understand their positive and negative comments. Continue to show them love and attention.
If they have questions about breastfeeding, simple, honest answers work best. Allow them to be present during feedings, or play or lie near you. If you are bottle-feeding, you may offer an older sibling the opportunity to feed the baby so that he or she can feel part of the process.
Older siblings benefit from attending a Big Brother/Big Sister-to-be Tour. In addition to a tour of the newborn nursery, this also includes doll play to learn how to hold and gently touch a baby. Please notify us if you’re interested in having your child/children participate in the program.
Parents
As a couple, you also will need to adjust to new responsibilities. Sharing thoughts and feelings about your baby, your new role as parents, your duties and your relationship will help simplify the adjustment period.
Be supportive and understanding of each other’s feelings. Set aside some special time to be together as a couple on a regular basis. Take advantage of grandparents’ offers to babysit, or find someone you trust to baby sit so you may have a few hours alone.
Resuming sexual activity is also important. Fatigue due to interrupted sleep or concern that your baby may awaken can lead to less spontaneity of sexual relations. The best time to be together sexually is when you’re both relaxed and interested.
Keep in mind that breastfeeding should not be relied upon as a form of contraception. You should discuss methods of family planning with your physician or nurse before leaving the hospital.